Telling Children Where to Stop—With Love
new 4th ed. published 2022. 194 pages Rights sold: China, Russia
Boundaries that Make Families Stronger
Nora Imlau is one of Germany’s leading voices on raising children. She has new and surprising advice to offer on one of the critical points of Attachment Parenting and shows how parents can set boundaries within the family without being authoritarian.
Before they practice recognizing and maintaining personal boundaries with their children, mothers and fathers should first of all learn to get a sense of their own boundaries. Nora Imlau offers practice-oriented advice and exercises for doing so and accompanies parents on the next step, no less important: to uphold these boundaries in everyday family life, even against children’s resistance. She shows how parents can succeed in not leaving their children alone with their frustration and being shown their boundaries and how, in doing so, to remain not only loving and focused on children’s needs, but also firm and clear. Phases of autonomy, stressful situation while shopping, trouble at school and pre-school, and the societal pressure confronting parents who set boundaries according to what they think is right—on all these questions and more, Nora Imlau gives expert advice that is both empathetic and informative.
• Bestselling Author on attachment parenting with a large audience
• Key questions of parenting confronting and troubling virtually every family
“It is important that boundaries are maintained by parents AND children. What makes my approach new is that it is no longer just about setting boundaries in relation to children, but in making it understood which boundaries are MINE and YOURS.”
“We could not ask for better instructors in this question than our own children. Young children in particular can argue very vehemently for their boundaries, provided that they have not already been dissuaded from doing so by fear of consequences and punishment. Together, parents and children can develop strategies to help draw boundaries that work for all members of the family.”